Ok, we’ve all heard the statement “happy wife, happy life”. And at one point in time, it was something that almost everyone agreed with. But as the dynamics of marriage and relationships have evolved, I’m finding that this statement has been a cause for debate. I’ve heard three different points of view. 1) It is absolutely true. 2) Not really, both people need to be happy. 3) False, there’s no correlation. My wife and I have different viewpoints as well.

I 100% agree with it. Not only because if my wife isn’t happy, my life is a living hell, but because seeing her happy, makes me the happy. I cannot be happy if she is not, and if she is happy all is right with the world. My world could be falling apart, but as long as she is smiling, nothing else matters. But one of the reasons I feel this way is because of the type of person she is. I know that she wouldn’t sacrifice my happiness for hers. I know that she wants me to be happy just as much as I do her. But not only that, I have a sense of peace when she’s happy. True happiness comes from God alone, but husbands are the protectors of their wives happiness. Wives give the sacrifice of submitting themselves to their husbands. We owe it them to ensure that they are happy. You are to love and treat your wife just as you would do yourself. And who doesn’t want to be happy themselves? My wife has a beautiful soul and because of that, I get a sense of satisfaction knowing that I have been good to a good person. I feel like my job is done. So yes, I agree. Happy wife, happy life.

I’m not saying that I disagree with the saying “Happy Wife, Happy Life,” but I do believe that both parties must be happy in order to have a happy marriage. Yes, I would assume that seeing his wife happy would make the husband happy; at least that’s what Antonio tells me, but for me that feeling is mutual. Seeing Antonio happy makes me happy. My way of thinking is different from many though. I’ve never found pleasure in one way relationships. I’ve always believed that love is a two way street, and one individual shouldn’t be responsible for doing more than the other. In order for there to be love and happiness, both parties must be willing to put forth the same effort. So let’s find pleasure in making one another happy. Just as the bible says a woman must submit to her husband; let us submit to his happiness as well ladies.  It was from the beginning of  our forever that I realized that Antonio and I would do whatever it took to see one another happy….and I’m sure you know that it was then I fell in love.

Now that you’ve heard our opinion, what are your thoughts on happy wife, happy life?