If we could describe marriage in two words, they would simply be “A blessing”. It is one of the greatest blessings any man or woman will receive. It is our belief that marriage is the most sacred bond that two people share. A bond orchestrated by God of two people assisting one another in building their relationships with Him, which is the direct route to true happiness. And it isn’t just a vow that we made to one another, but it is the vow that we made to God. Marriage is a vow to be someone’s life partner, to give them strength where they are weak, to bring them up when they are down, to be a ray of sunshine when they are in complete darkness; which, all in all means, to give them balance. The bible says in the book of Ephesians that a husband should love his wife just as Christ loved the church. This is an undying love. A love that lasts forever. A love that is patient and kind, one that does not envy, boast, anger, or dishonor others. It does not take record of wrong doings, and it is not self-seeking. Yet it rejoices in truth as it protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres, as stated in the book of I Corinthians. The book of Ephesians also charges women to submit themselves to their husbands as they submit themselves to the Lord. This is not “selective submission”. It’s not “I will submit when it’s convenient for me”, or when I want something in return. This is a submission that takes hard work and constant prayer. It’s a complete attitude adjustment. Not only is it the wife’s duty to submit to her husband, but it is also the husbands duty to submit to the Lord. This is just a short summary of our view on marriage, however this view was not always clear to us from the onset.

Before meeting my wife, I had no interest in marriage. Whenever asked, I would tell people with all sincerity that I am not getting married until I am 63 and even that age seemed like a long shot. My longest relationships were a little over six months and this was almost always my fault. Most of my failed relationships were due to my inability to find someone who could keep my attention and/or interest for longer than a few months. Marriage had no appeal to me, it had no meaning or substance at that time… but then I fell in love…

Before meeting my husband, I didn’t believe in marriage. I couldn’t understand why people spent so much money on a wedding to result in spending even more money for a divorce. I often questioned, “If marriage is as great as everyone says it is, why doesn’t it look appealing to me”? I had no positive representations in my upbringing that I had a desire to mimic. I’d been exposed to so many failed marriages that I had decided at a young age I wanted no parts….but then I fell in love…

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